The truth is, people who wont accept you for who you are exists everywhere. You can be the best person in the world and humans will still find a way to express their disdain for you. So the real question shouldn't be "Where can i go to find acceptance?" but rather "Why should i give a fuck whether you accept me or not?".
My OC back in NS used to encourage us to adopt a "blame yourself first" attitude. Although i wasn't his favourite trooper, i strongly concur with this particular "principle". The "blame yourself" attitude basically asks every individual to really reflect on why did this shit happen and what can they as an individual do to make sure the same problem does not arise again. Since truly, at the end of the day, the only thing you can truly be in control of is your own actions & thoughts. For example, if the people around me do not approve of my sexuality, instead of calling them sexists and kicking up a fuss blaming everyone for not accepting you, "blame" yourself for even giving a fuck about what they think. Toxicity exists at every corner, if you think you can beat it by calling them names, think again. Let go of your need to be acknowledged, at the end of the day, we are only answerable to our own happiness and if you let other's acknowledgement determine your level of happiness, you're not that different from the low-self esteem girls on instagram comparing followers & likes to feel a little better about themselves.
Now, my friend would likely never see this blogpost (which is for the better i guess?), but I'd like this post to remain here. It probably can serve as a good reminder in the future should i encounter shit and start blaming everyone around me.
Won't be seeing my girlfriend till the weekends. 3 more days to go!!
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